If a child is not ready to be left alone it can be a sad, lonely, frightening
and dangerous experience. There are many possible risks, both physical and
emotional, which could affect your child in a negative way.
In addition, the level of responsibility which is given to the child to look
after themselves to somehow manage whatever may happen is impossible for a
younger child. They may say that they do not mind being left and may find it
exciting initially, but they cannot fully know the possible risks and how to
handle them.
Even the relatively ordinary things that happen in life, such as hunger, a
storm, the phone ringing or someone coming to the front door can cause
problems. An accident, feeling ill or a power cut may occur and these are not
issues that a child could deal with.
In an inner city area it is rarely, if ever, possible to leave your children and
assume that someone will look out for them if necessary, as may be the case in
some communities and cultures.
If they are alerted, the Police and/or Social Services may take action if they
think that a child has been neglected by being left alone. Neglect happens when
a parent or carer fails to meet children's basic needs of food, shelter,
security, attention or protection from exposure to danger.
The NSPCC have issued guidelines advising that children under the age of 13
should not be left alone. While this recommendation does not have the force of
law, it is suggested as good practice. Children under this age do not have the
maturity to manage the responsibility of being left alone and this may be
particularly so if they are physically or learning disabled.
As a young person reaches adolescence, leaving them alone after school, for an
evening or during the day is less concerning as long as they are prepared and
aware of what to do if they are worried or need anything. So preparation for
this is necessary. If your child is 13 or over and you feel he or she has the
maturity and ability to deal with this, it is important that they know where
you are and who to contact in an emergency.
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