Domestic abuse is a crime and a major social problem
affecting many families. In 90% of reported domestic
violence incidents, children have either been present
in the same or a nearby room. It is overwhelmingly women
and children who are affected by domestic abuse and
men who are the perpetrators.
Children who witness, intervene or hear incidents
are affected in many ways. What can be guaranteed is
that children do hear, they do see and they are aware
of violence in the family.
Children will learn how to behave from examples parents
set for them. Domestic abuse teaches children negative
things about relationships and how to deal with people.
For instance:
- It can teach them that violence is an acceptable
way to resolve conflict
- They learn how to keep secrets
- They learn to mistrust those close to them and
that children are responsible and to blame for violence,
especially if violence erupts after an argument about
the children.
Many people find it difficult to understand why people
remain in or return to abusive situations. A combination
of fear, love, the risk of homelessness and financial
issues can make it very difficult for partners with
children to leave and some may want to stay put, and
get their abuser to leave.
Short term effects:
Children are affected in many ways by violence, even
after a short time. These effects include: feeling frightened,
becoming withdrawn, bedwetting, running away, aggressiveness,
behavioural difficulties, problems with school, poor
concentration and emotional turmoil.
Long term effects:
The longer children are exposed to violence, the more
severe the effects on them are. These can include:
- A lack of respect for the non-violent parent
- Loss of self-confidence, which will affect their
ability to form relationships in the future
- Being over-protective of parent
- Loss of childhood
- Problems at school
- Running away.
If you are worried about domestic abuse, discuss it
with someone else.
If you are violent or abusive, you can seek help to
stop what is happening.
If you are affected by domestic abuse you are not
alone - you can seek help from a range of specialist
services in Bradford. You can also report incidents
to the police - this will provide valuable evidence
for any charges against your abuser in the future.
Apart from any criminal proceedings, you can apply
for an injunction in the civil court to protect yourself.
If you would like details of solicitors in your area
who deal with family law, contact the local domestic
abuse services.
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